Here are 5 suggestions for Interfaith couples to try out after the Passover and Easter holidays, Take some time, sit down together, over a cup of coffee or a glass of wine and have a discussion about the following topics:

  •  Did you go to a Seder? If yes, ask each other what you enjoyed about it and make a list and put it on your IPhone as you go through this topic. Then, together, go over what you did not like about the Seder you attended. Did you both feel welcomed at the Seder you attended?  Again, make a list band put it on your IPhone.
  • If you did not go to a Seder, talk about why you did not go. Were you too late to find one to go to? Did you not know where to find a Seder? Did you know about JConnect.com, which is a local resource for you? Also Entrypoint.org is another web site where you can find a Seder to attend. Many synagogues hold Seders as well. Or was the reason that you were anxious about attending something that was unfamiliar. You might not have gone to a Seder because the Jewish partner was afraid to ask his non-Jewish partner. Or it could have been something else. In any case, it is a discussion worth having.
  • Did you make your own Seder. If you did, go back to Number 1 and go over the same process so that you will remember to attend to the things you want to change in your Seder next year.
  • Did you attend any Easter services or dinners? What did you like about them and what made you uncomfortable if anything? Make a list and put it your IPhone for you to review next year. Did you both feel welcome at the events?
  • Go over your lists. These will serve as a template for you for next year when it comes time to take action around the Passover and Easter holidays. Together, decide what you might want to do in your own home and what you will do with your extended families. With respect and open communication, you can address the issues you face as interfaith couples.

Have you tried talking about any of these things in your relationships? Let us know in the comments!